What Type of Lover Are Your - Blog by Faith Saunders, Discover A New Future

LOL – I captured your attention! Yes, this post is on love, but in the context of how we demonstrate love in our everyday life. I was listening to Tony Robbins and he spoke about various types of love and how as adults, we use these various types of love to get what we want in life. Some individuals use a combination of these depending on the situation, others spend their time stuck on one.


1. Baby Love
We all know that babies are cute and charming (here is the punch line) when they are getting what they want. Whenever their needs are not met, they cease to be cute! They cry and whine, until their needs are satisfied. Baby Love is being loving as long as our needs are being met.

2. Conditional Love
At first, this sounded like Baby Love, but the difference is that people who practice this type of love have a covert operation going on. In other words, they act as if what they are doing is genuine, out of love, but unbeknownst to others, they are expecting something in return. When they do not get what they want, they then get upset and some even act out. Conditional love is loving with strings attached.

3. Real Love
Have you thanked someone for something that they did, and they looked at you like you had 10 heads? They didn't know what you were referring to. It is an authentic love, without expectations. Real Love is loving without any expectations because it is who the person is.

4. Spiritual Love
This is what the Bible refers to as Agape love. It means loving others in spite of the pain and suffering they caused you and/or others. This is the highest level of love, and few people practice it on a day-to-day basis. Tony used Nelson Mandela as an example of someone who had demonstrated this type of love. Spiritual Love is loving despite the wrong and/or hurt that was done to you and the people you care about. We have practiced all or most of these types of love at one time in our lives. The important question is…

"What type of love do you most often practice - baby love, conditional love, real love or spiritual love?

No one but you can answer. Now tell yourself the truth! The good news is that we can't change the past; we can change the future. You can work to be a better lover and our Message in a Tin Collection can help you to do so. They are inspirational quotes and challenging questions to help you grow into the best version of you. Use them daily or as needed to motivate, inspire the possible and redefine the impossible.

Until next time… THINK POSITIVE!